Normal Thoughts When in an Abusive Relationship

When you are in an abusive relationship, it’s difficult to see things clearly. You may feel unloved, unworthy, stuck, not good enough, weak, and that if just love your mate better that they will be nicer to you. It is easy to feel like if you just do what they want, that they will change. For one, you are being manipulated. Abusers also usually isolate their victims. They make you feel like no one else would want you and that you cannot live without them. They make things so difficult that it is usually easier to stay in the abuse. But the truth is that you are never stuck. There’s always a way out. You may feel like your love can fix him or her, your abuser. The unfortunate truth is that it doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you cannot fix them. They have to want to get help and they have to believe that they need help. They also need to get the help on their own when they are ready to change. Wanting that for them is not enough. Loving them is not enough. It is normal to have negative thoughts about yourself when you are in an abusive relationship. However, these negative thoughts are not the truth. You are always worthy and valuable of being treated with respect. Also, just because someone doesn’t treat you as such like you are not worthy, it is not decrease your value as a person. You are still a valuable person. It just may not feel like this right now. Statistically, most abusers never change their behavior. And usually, if there is a slim chance that they can change and get help, you will need to get away from them first before they can reach that point. Also, most victims of abuse leave or attempt to leave nine times before they actually leave the relationship permanently. This is for many reasons. It could be for financial reasons or just feeling like they can’t get out away from their abuser. Also, they will promise you that they will change and get help. They will change and treat you different so you will stay and then they will eventually go back to their abusive behavior. You may feel like you’re going crazy. Again, you are just being manipulated. It’s helpful to separate from them and take time to clear your mind to be able to see things more clearly. It is also important to remember again, that you are never stuck in a situation. There’s always hope and there’s always help. Your life matters and you always deserve to be treated lovingly and with respect. Real love doesn’t hurt. If you’re in an abusive relationship, seek help and support today. You are worthy.

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