Your Relationship May Be Over----------- 
But Your Life Is Not Over

• Focus on yourself, if you've found yourself focused a great deal on your ex-partner or husband/wife. 
• If you've focused too much on yourself, turned inwards and stopped seeing friends and family then it's time to focus outwards and engage with their lives.

• Do all you can to work on building up your personal strength and self-esteem, most importantly by being kind and compassionate with yourself. Demonstrate self-care and self-respect.

• Try to Stop blaming - your ex as well as yourself. 
• It's the one thing that is going to stop you being able to let go and move on. It is much harder if you haven't been given the opportunity to 'spit it all out' and talk it over. The never being given an opportunity to have a conversation about it may be harder to forgive than the reasons as to why your relationship or marriage ended and how it ended.

• Change your surroundings, move furniture, clear up, buy new sheets and pillows for your bed. This is your space (if indeed it is and you haven't had to move in with someone as a temporary solution)! It will help you gain a sense of control, and having a sense of control is one of our essential emotional needs.

• Delete what and who needs to be deleted from your social media sites as much as you can, so as not to be confronted with your ex's to-ings and fro-ings at any time of the day.
• Remind your friends and family to keep your ex out of the conversation if possible. Ask them to be really sensitive when that can't be avoided (possibly because of your insistence to tell!).

• Get professional help if you need to. There is no need to suffer in silence and be alone.

Try to remember that by taking control and doing something to deal with the pain of an ending- that you're always going to feel better.

Reference- http://www.professional-counselling.com/getting-over-a-breakup-and-forget.html

Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
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 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

  

Do you often feel like God is not with you?

Do you get impatient and feel that He is not listening to your prayers?


God hears every word that you pray to Him. 

He just does not answer all of our prayers in the timing that we want and in the ways that we would like for Him to.

Learn to be patient and to understand that His perfect will and His timing is in your best interest. 

Just because He does not answer your prayers in the way that you would like- does not mean that he is not there. 

He is always with you!   

So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you. Deuteronomy 31:6

  Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

  

What would you be / who would you be / if you could be and do what you really wanted?

What is stopping you?

We are usually our biggest barriers.

Our negative thoughts are our biggest barriers.  

Ask yourself where/ how you believe you were influenced the most to have the belief system about yourself that you have.

Once you recognize this, it makes it easier to understand why you may have a stronghold onto some of your self-beliefs.   

Then, you can start to identify why you have some of your core beliefs. 

Once you understand this, you can begin to make some positive changes in your thought process and your life. 

What are your passions? What makes you- you if you were really being yourself? 

Ask yourself this: 
What about me gives me a positive sense of who I am?

  Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

  

Support Group for Depression, Anxiety, Grief, and Trauma for adults of all ages 
(male and female).

Tuesday, June 27 at 7pm


Registration is required for each meeting. 

Email Diane:
Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com to register or for more information 
   Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

Thursday April 27th was such an exciting day. A day we had anxiously anticipated for 5 months. We would find out if we were adding another precious baby boy or a sweet princess to our lives. At 6:30, family would arrive at our home for our baby's gender reveal party.

As I drove to my ultrasound appointment, I could hardly contain myself. I may have gone at least 10 miles over the speed limit the whole way, hoping maybe they could get me in even earlier than my appointment. As I parked my car and got out, I had a smile on my face ear to ear I'm almost positive the lady in the car facing me noticed. Oh, how I had longed for this day. 

After sitting in the waiting room for an hour, I finally heard the words. "Mrs. Keller". It was my turn! It was finally time!! As I walked back to the ultrasound room, the nurse and I talked about how exciting these moments are in pregnancy. We laughed at the fact I have three boys and she told me she would keep her fingers crossed a little girl was on the screen. I told her either way it goes, I will be happy. All of my boys have blessed my life in so many ways. I hope they realize this one day.

I laid on the ultrasound table and cut up with technician. We agreed to try to keep the gender a secret in hopes of keeping it a surprise until the reveal party that night. I joked that it may be difficult if it's a boy since God seemed to bless all of them in "that area". We laughed as she poured a gallon of goo on my stomach and laid the ultrasound stick on my belly.

 
The process began. She began to take measurements to make sure our beautiful baby was growing properly. Before she even took the first measurement, I suddenly had a sick, scared feeling in my stomach. I didn't know why. I just looked at the screen and suddenly became terrified, for no specific reason at the point. She began taking more measurements. I noticed the baby was smaller than he or she should have been. I thought maybe the baby was smaller or maybe the due date originally calculated was incorrect. The technician grew very quiet. 

She placed the stick over the baby's heart to listen to the heartbeat. I've been to many ultrasounds. I know there should be waves on the screen when they test for this. I saw no waves. The technician stayed silent. She took one more measurement. She then told me she needed to bring the doctor in to look at some things and hurriedly left the room. 

I sat in the dark room alone. I turned the screen to face me and looked at the pictures of my baby. I looked at the measurements. I looked at the heartbeat, or lack of heartbeat, showing. I thought, no. No. This is not what they are going to tell me. The baby can't be dead. Everything has been perfect so far. I'm 5 months pregnant, entering my 6th month. Babies don't just "stop" this long into pregnancy. The baby has to just be small or have some kind of birth defect affecting its growth. Maybe dwarfism. Yes, dwarfism. I can deal with that. We'll be OK. And I have to just be reading the heart rate results wrong. My baby can't be dead. 

The doctor walked in the room. The ultrasound technician was crying. I knew. Before they told me, I knew. An agony came over me that is so strong I cannot put it into words. My wailing and crying could be heard through the door and down the hall. I heard the official words. "Ms. Keller, I'm so sorry. We can no longer detect a heartbeat. Your baby has died". Through my sobs, I begged the technician to tell me if it was a boy or girl. She told me the baby was too tightly snuggled up into itself to determine at that time. In that moment, my world changed. 

The next 3 hours were a blur. I remember there was a lot of talking to different nurses, but I don't remember what anyone said. It's as if the words bounced around the room but never actually entered my ears. I was there, but my mind and soul were not. I guess that's what people refer to as shock. I've never experienced it before. Not until that moment. Kris, my rock, the love of my life, came to the office as quickly as he could. We cried. He told me how much he loved me and that everything would be OK. I could only sit and stare or cry. Before I left the office, I took medicine that would prompt the beginning stages of the labor and delivery of our beautiful baby. 

On Friday April 28th at 9:00 PM, Kris and I headed to the hospital for what we thought would be a relatively short process for removing our sweet baby. After arriving, we were lead to the labor and delivery floor, along with several other mothers and fathers who were happily expecting the deliveries of their beautiful, healthy, living children that same night. I stepped out of the elevator onto the floor and immediately lost it. Why? Why was I here in this waiting room with a group of laboring women, full bellied as they were 9 months and anticipating their arrivals. I sobbed. I couldn't hold it in, even though I tried. I couldn't look at them or sit with them. I sat on the floor on the other side of the room with my back facing them. Kris held me and told me everything was going to be OK. He's a wonderful man. 

They finally called my name. "Mrs. Keller". I wasn't happy at hearing my name this time. I was lead down a hallway. The same hallway that only a little over a year ago I walked down to give birth to Skyler. This time, I felt as though I was being led to my death. I entered the labor and delivery room and lost it even more. I then found out this would not be a fast process. I was going to be delivering our beautiful baby. There was no surgery. There was no quick procedure. I would be given medication to begin labor contractions. I would endure 12 hours of labor. I would have to deliver my sweet child, but there would be no happy cry in the end.
The night turned into morning. The morning turned into day. 13 hours after I arrived at the hospital, I gave birth to our sweet angel. 

"Is it a boy or girl? Please! Is it a boy or girl!"
"Mrs. Keller. He is a perfect baby boy. He is absolutely perfect."

A sweet, perfect baby boy. After 5 long months of waiting, we finally had our answer. What a cute little boy he was. He had Skyler's button nose. His fingers and toes were perfect. He had the smallest little fingernails you could imagine. 

The nurses cleaned him off, wrapped him in a blanket, and I held our son for the first time. I was not alone in the room. My mother had come to show support. My best friend Rachel was with me for pictures and support. Kris never left my side. In that moment, however, I felt as though everything and everyone else in the world was gone. It was just me and Waylon in the room at that time. 

They placed a tiny diaper and bonnet on him and took pictures. We changed rooms to the post partum section of the floor. The floor where new mothers bond with their new blessings. They allowed me to carry Waylon to our room and placed him in a bassinet beside my bed. He stayed there with us all night. I needed that time with him, even though I was aware his spirit had already left this world. 

At 4:00 this morning, Kris and I said our final goodbyes to him and asked the nurses to please take him. I didn't want to. I wanted to keep him forever. I didn't want any of this to be real. But it was real. I had to accept it. I watched as they rolled the bassinet out of my room and knew that was the last time I would see him. 

Ever since Thursday, my life and emotions have been a complete rollercoaster. I will convince myself I'm "fine" and "over it" one moment, and in the next moment I'm falling apart again. It's hard. I don't know exactly how to handle all this. But, I guess no one ever really knows how to prepare for this kind of thing. 

Why am I writing all this and in such great detail? 

First- I want to remember. I want to remember every detail and every second of the brief time that I had with him on this earth. The joy we all felt when I was pregnant with him. Every emotion I felt while he was here on this earth with us. 

Second- I have never seen many women be vocal on this subject. However, as I receive messages of condolence and encouragement, I've found that this has happened to many women in and around my life. I want to break the silence so that healing can begin for myself and hopefully someone else grieving this same thing.

Third- I want to remember exactly how I feel in this moment. Uncensored. I know God has some kind of blessing that will come out of this devastating tragedy. I don't know what it is right now. I honestly cannot understand or fathom what it may be. But so many times in my life, even times when I have blatantly turned my back on Him, He has looked over me every step of the way. 

He has used every bad decision or bad experience I've ever been through to make me a better, stronger person. These experiences make me appreciate life more. Maybe one day I'll be in a place where I need to help someone through a similar experience. Maybe he wants me to be able to empathize with someone in the future. I'm not sure. But I'm hopeful and confident this will somehow be used for good and His glory.

My message for now would be to love your children. On the days when they annoy you and you feel like you are at your wits end, remember how precious they really are. Remember how fragile life is. Think of the mothers out there who have baby angels looking down on them, and find gratitude that you can walk hand in hand with yours right now. When I got home from the hospital today, I looked at all 3 of my boys in a different light. I suddenly felt more patience. More love. More gratitude that God allowed me to be their mother. If that feeling in itself was the only thing that comes out of this experience, that would be a personal blessing in itself.

Hold your children tight tonight. Hug them. Stop what you're doing and read them a book. Not because you "have to", but because you want to. Sing an extra bedtime lullaby. Give them one extra kiss.

Thank you all for your overwhelming messages of support and condolences. As I am still very emotionally up and down with this, I have not replied to many of your messages. But please know they have not gone unread or unnoticed. They have helped more than you know.

In Loving Precious Memory of #wayloncash2017
By Lacey Keller 

       Free Monthly Support Groups For        Miscarriage and Infant Loss

  

Groups are on-going and open-group

to help anyone who has suffered a loss of any kind including a loss due to miscarriage/ stillborn/ infant loss 

For mothers and fathers as well as other family members and friends

What:

Support Groups for Miscarriage and Infant Loss

Where:

Michael Loftis Counseling      

       2670 Memorial Blvd
               Suite A
  Murfreesboro, TN 37129

When: Every 3rd Tuesday evening of each month

Time: 7:00pm- 8:30pm
 
Support Groups are FREE
Registration is Required for each meeting

Contact Diane Gammon by calling or texting (615) 556-8406 or email Diane at Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com. 
to register

You can attain hope and healing!

Diane received her Master of Science Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University with a specialization in Trauma and Crisis Counseling.

Diane is a thriving survivor of 5 miscarriages as well as losing an infant daughter.
She uses her personal experiences 
of hope and helping 
along with her education and counseling abilities 
to help others 
who have suffered such a loss. 
 Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
 Disclaimer- I am not a doctor and I am not giving out medical advice. My blogs are for information and inspirational purposes. Please consult your doctor before starting a new health regimen.

CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

It is never too late to make positive changes in your life. 

It is never to late to start making steps toward healing and living a more productive and meaningful life!  

I know that it can feel like it is too overwhelming at times for you. 

I know that it can feel like you are just too far in the pit of hopelessness. 

No matter your situation and no matter your past, you can make positive steps toward healing. 

You can begin today toward living abundantly. 

I have experienced multiple traumas and I was able to heal from the anxiety and PTSD.

I want to encourage you to make the first step today in deciding that you want to heal, that you want to live without guilt and shame, that you want to live without numbing your pain in unhealthy ways, and that you want to be healthy mentally and physically.

Ask yourself today what you would like to change in your life. 

Make a plan.

Take step one toward that plan.

It is never too late: to begin again, to have a new dream, and to choose to heal and forgive.

Forgive yourself. Forgive others. 

Learn to manage and let go of what is out of your control and to work on what is in your control! 

            Seek help. You are not alone.

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By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor 

 Disclaimer- I am not a doctor and I am not giving out medical advice. My blogs are for information and inspirational purposes. Please consult your doctor before starting a new health regimen.

Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

   

   

                 Make it A GREAT Day! 

                         Get Moving!
                          SELF-CARE! 

 Disclaimer- I am not a doctor and I am not giving out medical advice. My blogs are for information and inspirational purposes. Please consult your doctor before starting a new health regimen.

Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.

CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

 In the video with me is my granddaughter,
 Brooklyn-Bree

 Juicing Vegetables is so good for you!

Juicing helps you absorb all the nutrients from the vegetables. This is important because most of us have impaired digestion as a result of making less-than-optimal food choices over time. This limits your body's ability to absorb all the nutrients from the vegetables. Juicing will help to "pre-digest" them for you, so you that will receive most of the nutrition.

Juicing allows you to consume an optimal amount of vegetables in an efficient manner. Some people may find eating that many vegetables difficult, but it can be easily accomplished with a quick glass of vegetable juice.

  Reference:http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2011/11/13/benefits-of-juicing.aspx

 Disclaimer- I am not a doctor and I am not giving out medical advice. My blogs are for information and inspirational purposes. Please consult your doctor before starting a new health regimen.

Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.

CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

Me, go to a Counselor?  Have you ever thought this?

Have you ever wondered about trying counseling? If you have been to a counselor then you know what to expect. If not, let me help explain it a little.

At first, there are in-take papers that you would need to fill out and sign. This is to give the counselor your consent for counseling. Other papers needed might be personal information about yourself, how you plan to pay, and the reason(s) that had brought you to counseling.

For me, after the ‘business’ part of the intake, I would begin a counseling session with trying right away to build a positive rapport with my client.

I would do this by making some kind of small talk with my client. I would then try and make my client feel safe with me by the way that I approached them and with being warm and genuine when I spoke to them.

I explain to my clients that what they discuss with me is confidential except for a few exceptions. They are: if they were a minor, if they said that they wanted to harm themselves or someone else, any abuse or neglect of a minor, person with a disability or an elderly person is suspected, or if information was ordered by a judge.

If I didn’t already know, I would ask a new client what brought them in. Then I would ask some in-take questions to help me to be able to help them better. 

Remember that talking to others when you are hurting can be very helpful!

If there is something that you do not understand at your first counseling session, ask your counselor questions about what is not clear to you.

A counselor can help you and provide you with coping skills so that you can help yourself better through difficult times. 

Seeking mental health help is honorable and admirable. 

 Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.

CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........

Groups are on-going and open-group

to help anyone who has suffered a loss of any kind including a loss due to miscarriage/ stillborn/ infant loss 

For mothers and fathers as well as other family members and friends

What:

Support Groups for Miscarriage and Infant Loss

Where:

Michael Loftis Counseling      

       2670 Memorial Blvd
               Suite A
  Murfreesboro, TN 37129

When: Every 3rd Tuesday evening of each month

Time: 7:00pm- 8:30pm
 
Support Groups are FREE
Registration is Required for each meeting

Contact Diane Gammon by calling or texting (615) 556-8406 or email Diane at Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com. 
to register

You can attain hope and healing!

Diane received her Master of Science Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University with a specialization in Trauma and Crisis Counseling.

Diane is a thriving survivor of 5 miscarriages as well as losing an infant daughter.
She uses her personal experiences 
of hope and helping 
along with her education and counseling abilities 
to help others 
who have suffered such a loss. 
 Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
 Disclaimer- I am not a doctor and I am not giving out medical advice. My blogs are for information and inspirational purposes. Please consult your doctor before starting a new health regimen.

CLICK HERE For Living With Hope Counseling Facebook Page AND "LIKE" IT!
 


 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor

 Open Full-Time Days - Monday through Saturday
With Evening Appointments
615-556-8406
Email- Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sliding Scale Fee for Individual Counseling Sessions 

Free Support Groups for: Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Hopelessness, Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, and Grief and Loss (Including Miscarriage/ Stillbirth/ Infant loss)

 Have Hope! Renew Health! and...........